When you let go you allow yourself inner freedom…
We always find ourselves wanting to change but never can quite get there. We wonder why this change can’t occur when in reality we know exactly why. The truth is we can’t let go of things. How many of us can say we are guilty of holding on to things that should be let go of? Many of us, in fact, can relate to this whether it be a relationship, job, etc. It is hard to let go of things when we are attached to them and in the eyes of the Buddha this is our biggest problem. Attachments are what leads us to ultimately suffer. We like to think that holding on is what makes us stronger but in reality, holding just makes us weaker. It drains us of our happiness, energy, and precious time and although we like to think that a person or situation might get better there is a very high chance that it will not.
We must accept things for what their worth, forgive, and then let go. I use to think that letting go of something made you a quitter. It wasn’t until recently when I discovered the quote, “You don’t drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there” when everything made sense to me. The more you struggle in a situation the more it affects you. Never give something the power to consume and/or drown you.
I, unfortunately, had to let go of a lot of things in my life. People in particular. There were times when I believed certain people had my best interest at heart but that turned out to not be the case. Toxic people are alive and will do anything to tear you apart. Please, never give them the power to do that. Never feel guilty or sad about letting go and removing toxic people from your life. Please don’t ever make room for a person who continues to bring you pain or try to make you feel unimportant.It’s one thing if a person acknowledges the wrong they have done and decides to make efforts to change their ways. But, if someone disregards your feelings and continues to treat you poorly this simply leaves you with no other choice but to let them go. You’re probably saying, “Alexis, it’s hard to let go and I just don’t know how to.” Well…here’s how:
- Allow yourself to feel it (Cry, be angry, break something) Pain demands to be felt.
- Find something to distract yourself (i.e hobby, exercise, laugh, hang out with your family or friends)
- Write down your feelings on a piece a paper, journal, and/or the notes in your phone. Allow your thoughts to be released from your head and heart.
- Accept it for what its worth
- Forgive and forget
- Take a step back, breathe, and realize what this particular experience has taught you